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Hi, welcome to my Lulu storefront. My book "When Hope is Not Enough" is about dealing with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). BPD is also known as Emotional Regulation Disorder (ERD). In my book I have a series of questions that you can ask yourself to help determine whether your loved one has BPD or, better, whether your loved one behaves in a BPD-like manner. Here are some of the questions:

Do you fear coming home from work, or fear your loved one coming home from work, because you have no idea in which state of mind the person will be?
Do you hold back your opinions about certain subjects for fear of being berated, criticized and judged?
Do you not mention this person’s erratic behavior for fear of being attacked or not believed by others outside the relationship?
Do you feel that this person is constantly saying that everything is your fault and that you are to blame for all of his/her problems?
Do you feel lied to and/or manipulated?
Do you feel that this person won’t listen to reason or that he/she specifically ignores the truth to support his/her erratic behavior?
Does he/she rarely or never acknowledge your feelings? Does he/she never apologize for hurtful behavior?
Is he/she like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? Does it feel like these “switches” from friendliness to rage take place over short periods of time?
Does he/she look to you for answers and then attack you when you give them?
Do you feel you carry around a secret about the embarrassing behavior that you “put up with” in your loved one?
Have you asked yourself “what about me?”

If you answered “yes” to a large portion of the questions above, it is possible that you are in a relationship with someone who has BPD (and very probably that you are in a relationship with someone with BPD traits). Because you have been so isolated and secretive about your relationship, you also might feel that you are the only person in the world who feels this way and experiences this behavior. You are not.

"When Hope is Not Enough" can help!

Here are some links to help you:
The Anything to Stop the Pain Blog
Bon's Resource Site
ATSTP Google Group Email Support List

But I Love YouBut I Love You (book)

Print: $9.95

Download: $4.00

"But I Love You" provides a jump-start guide for loved ones of people with Borderline Personality Disorder. A compact version of my other book "When Hope is Not Enough", "But I Love You" is a primer for those that are confused about the behavior of their loved ones with BPD.

When Hope is Not EnoughWhen Hope is Not Enough (book)

Print: $19.95

Download: $7.50

Does someone you love have Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you in a relationship with a difficult person? Does this person rage at you for no reason at all? Is everything always YOUR fault? Do you feel lied to and manipulated? Do you believe that there is nowhere to turn? When Hope is Not Enough (WHINE) is here to help. WHINE provides a step-by-step plan for dealing with people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or BPD traits. WHINE can help rebuild your relationship and help you create a calmer life. Learn how to live with and love someone with BPD.

Anything to Stop the Pain - BPD and Non-BPs» Anything to Stop the Pain – For Non-Borderlines and Loved Ones of People with BPD

Woman Eats 78 Forks and Spoons
2009 Nov 03
Woman Eats 78 Forks and Spoons

Updated: Saturday, 31 Oct 2009, 1:37 PM EDT Published : Saturday, 31 Oct 2009, 1:35 PM EDT

By MIKE BRODY

(MYFOX NATIONAL) – A woman obsessed with eating cutlery had to have surgery to remove 78 forks and spoons from her stomach, the Daily Mail reports .

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Mindblindness and BPD
2009 Oct 30
Mindblindness

A little while ago, I was reading through “Mentalizing in Clinical Practice” (a dense read, but worth it IMO) and I was reading the section on Mindblindness. This is a concept that was originally developed with respect to autism. It means that you have the inability to accurately read the intentions, motivations or emotions [...] No related posts.
Story of an Artist with BPD
2009 Oct 27
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Mark Williams—no relation to the local radio talk-show host of the same name—may be the most talented artist you’ve never heard of.

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Minnesota Nurse Investigated for Allegedly Encouraging Suicide
2009 Oct 27
Here is a story I stumbled across about a nurse allegedly encouraging people to commit suicide on the Internet.
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Listen to the Presentations from ISSPD
2009 Oct 22
NEA-BPD has posted the audio presentations and presentation slides from the International Society for the Study of Personality Disorders here.
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New Poll, Please Respond
2009 Oct 01
All,

I have created a new poll regarding BPD and employment. I believe that BPD causes significant economic consequences on families and the state. Please choose the best answer that typifies the person with BPD in your life.

Thanks, Bon
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Read my free eBook
2009 Sep 30
Here is one of my free eBooks (actually more of a free “white paper”). You can read it here from Scribd.

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2009 Sep 29
Non-BPDs and self-image

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